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happy ending

Wednesday, January 21st, 2009

so some of you have been wondering what ever happened with that lovely little stray i took in recently…

to get filled in, read :

toni’s story

update : toni the stray pup

update : toni’s got a home!

my wonderful parents helped me out a few days ago and picked up toni from animal control in east new york. she’d been spayed and was a little groggy, but in good spirits - she only puked a little bit in the car.

we took her to glen rock, nj where she’s living now, with pete, a cop who’s got a lot of space and lives next to the woods.

here’s a pic of the happy couple :

pete and toni

pete was thrilled to meet her and, as i’ve heard from my mom, couldn’t be happier with his new friend. toni (or brook lynn as he’s renamed her) is doing great, and has a buddy too. axel, my mom’s friend robin’s dog, looks exactly like toni/brook and they’re sure to be fast friends.

again, thank you to all who helped out with taking care of her, taking her to the shelter, providing food and toys, and giving your undying support.

xo c

silver (or gold) lined fabulousness

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009

the pres, vice pres and ladies

first of all, let’s just talk about how fabulous michelle (christian-missionary-wardrobe) obama looked today, especially after that election night outfit debacle. and what’s more, how good ol’ jill biden never disappoints and always has a hem at least 5 inches higher than michelle’s during any public appearance (and just for today: hooker boots). i watched the inauguration with jess and she was drooling over jill’s MILF-y look.

now that all that important stuff’s out of the way, let’s talk about me.

you might imagine that i’m pissed off right now, especially because i was openly pissed off about rick warren making the invocation on this day of days from the start. and also maybe because he talked a lot about jesus (or “yeshua,” as he’s known to friends) in his invocation - along with saying “malia and sasha” with creepy, child-molester intonation.

or, also because openly gay bishop gene robinson’s speech was conveniently left out of sunday’s “we are one” concert broadcast on HBO - a decision that apparently was made by the PIC (presidential inauguration committee). afterelton.com has this update, which includes a ‘takin’ the blame’ quote from the PIC, and an assertion that this morning, before the inauguration, robinson’s words (along with the enitrety of the concert) were to be aired on the mall’s jumbotrons before today’s ceremony. i still haven’t been able to find confirmation that that actually happened. anybody? anybody?

but alas, friends, i’m not too pissed off. but why?

as you may know, us second-class gays were not included in any laundry list of oppressed folk by any speaker this morning - although the sucker in me totally appreciated obama’s allusions to “tolerance” in various forms. “tolerance! that means he’s talking about the gays! we got somethin’! right? right!?”

so where’s the silver lining - other than in michelle’s monastic overcoat?

it’s here :

For we know that our patchwork heritage is a strength, not a weakness. We are a nation of Christians and Muslims, Jews and Hindus — and non-believers.

what what WHAT!? did he say “non-believers!?!” atheists!?!?! WTF!?!?!?

yes, my friends. i might be a big ole fag, but i’m also a big ole “non-believer” - and while i can’t say that any remarks today were particularly envelope-pushing regarding the rights of me and my sexually deviant brethren, the inclusion of atheists in an inaugural address is MASSIVE.

of course, obama has mentioned us godless folk several times in speeches, and there have been allegations that his parents were atheists themselves, but the fact that at perhaps the most-watched, presidential-pattern-setting moment he decided to include us means that we exist. we exist, we are americans and we matter.

the gay in me is still seething, but the atheist in me is brimming with joy. of course this is a small victory - after all yeshua was there in full force all over that ceremony - but where as the gay rights movement is rolling in full force, atheists are continuously legally and socially oppressed wherever they go. we are a group that is more often ignored than condemned and in this religiously-righteous day-in-age any mention in the public theatre is monumental.

overall, i’m doin’ fine. gay and atheist angst inside my chest is swirling, but on this historic day i’d like us all to remember the following (my dad commented on my last post with this, yesterday):

Chris and friends,
I share your disappointment and anger, and deal with it by reminding myself that America is not simply a country, it is a process moving ever forward toward something more noble and inclusive. That process comes to a screeching halt the moment we become so disillusioned and bitter that we allow injustice to continue. Justice was not born with the universe, not essential to the cosmos as is gravity, electromagnetism and the nuclear forces. Justice must be manifested by thinking, feeling beings. Barack Obama stands as president today because, despite the setbacks in his own life, he always remained true to that hopeful process. Let us in our own struggle also be true, and when the day comes when we watch the first openly gay American take the presidential oath, let that same arc toward justice compel us to include those who have yet to have their human dignity acknowledged. With that great process in mind, we can truly celebrate this inauguration day.

amen, y’all.

o, happy day?

Monday, January 19th, 2009

bishop gene robinson

when it was announced that openly gay episcopalian bishop, gene robinson was to make the invocation at the inauguration-celebrating “we are one” concert, aired on HBO yesterday, the gays were happy again. we momentarily forgave obama for his pick of rick warren (that guy who thinks we’re pedophiles) to do the invocation at the inauguration.

but of course, there was still trouble in river city. for some strange reason, bishop robinson’s invocation didn’t make it to the HBO broadcast. and who’s fault was that? afterelton.com talked to HBO about it :

Contacted Sunday night by AfterElton.com concerning the exclusion of Robinson’s prayer, HBO said via email, “The producer of the concert has said that the Presidential Inaugural Committee made the decision to keep the invocation as part of the pre-show.”

Uncertain as to whether or not that meant that HBO was contractually prevented from airing the pre-show, we followed up, but none of the spokespeople available Sunday night could answer that question with absolute certainty.

However, it does seem that the network’s position is that they had nothing to do with the decision.

what’s more, as soon as robinson took the stage, the speakers on the mall “malfunctioned” and most of the estimated 750,000 atendees missed his opening remarks. lloyd phillips write in a comment from boxturtlebulliten.com :

I was at the national mall for the concert, about 1/2 a mile from the Lincoln Memorial, and the moment Gene Robinson took to the stage, the speakers went out. We couldn’t hear a word of the entire invocation. Of course minutes before when Elmo was on the jumbotrons speaking about unity, everything was fine. The moment the gay bishop takes to the stage suddenly there is technical issues. Of course when I get home I find out that HBO cut Gene Robinson from the footage. It’s really horrible and sad. I really don’t think it was a “day of unity” for everyone.

luckily some christian with a camera caught it on tape :

also apparently, the DC gay men’s chorus wasn’t announced when they performed at the event. they backed up notoriously straight singer, josh groban.

wow. this olive branch tastes like poop.

i’m still mad.

xo c

ps - more updates about the dog soon.

update : toni’s got a home!

Saturday, January 17th, 2009

SUCCESS!!!!!

pete, the cop from ridgewood, nj came through! he agreed to pick up toni on sunday, when she gets out of animal control!

he’s got a big backyard, and he dog sits for a lot of dogs so toni will have plenty of social time with friends.

a huge weight has been lifted from me. i’m absolutely thrilled that she will be put in an ideal situation with someone that has the time, energy and space to give her what she needs.

thank you so much for all of your support in helping me try to find her a home.

if you wouldn’t mind, please send out an email or post this note to anywhere you posted my initial requests to let any concerned parties know that we’re all good.

i’ll post another update once i’ve gotten her all settled in this weekend.

best,
chris

update : toni the stray pup

Tuesday, January 13th, 2009

toni in fulton park, where i found her

this morning my friend matt and i took toni to animal care and control in east new york. i’ve had her for three days and am definitely not capable of taking care of her on my own. taking her to “the pound” has always been a last resort, but i have a few good reasons for doing so.

the other day in the park, a dog got in a little tiff with toni and (i think) injured her front right paw. for the last day or so she’d been limping on it and holding it up when she sat. i couldn’t afford to take her to a clinic or vet. i decided to take her to animal control because they can vaccinate her, spay her, and look at her paw, all for free.

i paid a $20 finder’s fee which gives me first dibs on adopting her after the 72 hour legal holding period. i got a little extension on that, so i have to pick her up by 2pm on saturday or she might be taken to a shelter or euthanized.

i’m waiting to hear back from a cop in new jersey who was referred to me by my mother as someone that expressed interest in adopting her. he has a big back yard and lives next to a wooded area with a stream. he’s dog sat a friend of my mom’s dog a lot and has always expressed interest in having his own. he’s supposed to be contacting me today, and if all goes well, on saturday, i’ll pick up toni and transport her to beautiful ridgewood, nj - a huge step up from my tiny apartment.

driving to animal control was nerve wracking. i didn’t know what i would encounter. i imagined a dingy jail-like scenario with warehouses full of pets crammed into tiny cages. but instead i found a kind of pediatrician-like set up with murals and viewing rooms. they scanned toni for a chip and found that she didn’t have one, and assured me that they would take care of her. i’m worried about her being locked up in a cage for a few days, but i’m sure she’ll be fine. and if it means that i can have my space and time to devote myself to finding her a suitable owner, while she receives proper medical attention at minimal cost, then so be it.

my house really feels empty without her. even though she ate one of my shirts and got a little rambunctious at times, she really brought me a lot of joy in the last few days. i guess that’s what dogs are supposed to do. i just feel really fortunate that i was able to share in some of that and help a fellow animal in need.

thank you to all those who wrote, commented and called me with suggestions. i am still accepting adoption requests and suggestions in case this guy in nj doesn’t come through. please do not hesitate to call or email me with any info you have on prospective homes for toni.

of course i’ll keep you up to date on her progress.

best,
chris

toni’s story

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

toni

friday night at around 2am i was walking through fulton park from the train station to my house in stuyvesant heights, brooklyn when i noticed something moving by a water fountain. as i approached i realized that it was a puppy tied to the water fountain with bungee cord. i didn’t approach, thinking that maybe her owner had just left her there temporarily, and i didn’t know her temperment. when i got home, i called 311 and tried to get animal control to retrieve her. they said that no one could get her unless she was injured until the next day. i said “should i call back in 6 hours when she’s frozen to death?” the operator said there was nothing she could do.

i kept an eye on her from my apartment for the next hour and didn’t see anyone coming to get her so i decided to bring her some food and water. all i had was cat food so i brought out a can and some water in a plastic container.

upon approach she was anxious and excited. she scarfed down the cat food and water quickly and seemed to beg for more. i felt the sub-freezing temperature and listened to her whining, watching her struggle against the dirty bungee cord and made a decision.

i dragged her by the collar she was wearing to my house and pulled her into my bathroom. she seemed to be a little frantic so i made a bed for her in my bathtub and put some water and some more cat food in there and closed the shower doors. i spent a few hours with her petting her and talking to her in soothing tones. she let me touch her instantly and wasn’t afraid.

i slept for a few hours and the next morning let her out of the bathtub to have free range of the bathroom (which is actually pretty big). she started chewing on my towels so i gave her an old shoe to chew on instead. i had to go out for a rehearsal at noon, but before i left i arranged for a pet taxi to pick her up in the afternoon to take her to animal control - but during my rehearsal i got katie’s boyfriend matt to drive us the next day, which not only meant i would have time to find a no-kill shelter, but also research possible permanent home options among friends.

on the way home from rehearsal i bought a leash (in the morning i walked her by fastening a belt to her collar). i took her out when i got home and ran into a neighbor who had dogs and told me she was about 6 or 7 months old, probably a pit bull/lab mix. last night, he brought me some dog food and a chew toy to keep her occupied. she spent the night with me cuddled up in my bed and only woke me up once at 4am for a violent face-licking.

this morning i was supposed to meet with a couple that was interested in taking her, but they were unavailable to. i also only found one no-kill shelter that only possibly had an opening. upon discussion with my neighbor, lindsay, who also has a dog, i decided that i would keep her until i could put her in a permanent home (as she said she would help me take care of her until then).

toni
as i write, toni (as i’ve named her) is sleeping peacefully on my white shag rug. i’ve actually grown quite fond of her, but cannot keep her as i do not have the appropriate time to dedicate to her (not to mention my cat, who is thankfully still in new jersey, might not be so into it). she is a puppy and needs someone who can devote adequate time to training her. her previous owner was irresponsible enough to abandon her in a park in the dead of winter, and also didn’t seem to teach her any commands or how to walk with a leash.

however, i can attest, and i’m no dog expert, that she is capable of being obedient. i, even with me minimal experience with dogs, have taught her to sit, and can easily control her when she gets too excited.

she also needs to go to a vet. i don’t know how long she was out there in the park, and i don’t know how she was treated before that. i don’t know if she’s spayed or if she has a microchip in her. unfortunately i do not have the time or money to take her to one.

basically, i need to find her a permanent home with someone who is willing to invest the time and money needed to take care of her properly. toni is a beautiful, affectionate, and potentially-obedient dog and i can’t possibly understand how anyone could abandon her. it literally brings tears to my eyes to think what would have happened to her if i didn’t find her or if she were simply set free to fend for herself.

time is of the essence. i am entering an extremely busy few weeks and need to find her a home immediately. but i also want to make sure that this home will be appropriate for her needs and that she meets the needs of her prospective owner as well. i don’t want her to be abandoned again.

please contact me if you or someone you know is interested in toni. you can call me and meet with her tomorrow (monday) morning to see if she’s a right match.

my number is 201.906.9730.

thanks for reading and i’ll keep you updated on her status.

xo - chris